This year, for Father’s Day I decided to surprise my husband with a trip to Florida for three days. We did an extended weekend at the Boca Beach Club Resort in Boca Raton. This gift was a little selfish because I was the one who wanted the vacation, but it really was much needed for the both of us. I love spending time with our daughter, but once in a while I think it is necessary to just spend a night or two by ourselves. It takes a lot of work to set up a trip like this. Besides the obvious planning for the hotel, transportation and flights, we need to coordinate who will be watching our daughter, dog, fish and house. We are very fortunate that my mother in-law and father in-law offered to stay at our home and watch over everyone and everything. This really helps to keep everything running smoothly.
While away I didn’t really have to worry about my daughter because I knew she was in good hands. Also, she loves spending time with her grandparents so his made it a heck of a lot easier. Now, I know this is not the case for everyone. It is very hard to find someone to watch your kid(s) for a few hours, never mind a long weekend. So, if you can get someone to watch your children even for a few hours occasionally so you and your significant other can do something together that could even do the trick. Go to dinner, take a long stroll, go see a movie, or really anything else you want.
We all love are kids and spending time with them, but we need to stop feeling guilty about not being with them every second of the day. It is “ok” to want to go get a manicure by yourself. It is “ok” to want to do a date night with your spouse. My husband and I do it at least twice a month. We went on our first trip alone together when she was eleven months old, since then we have done various one night mini trips and this past recent trip was the longest since the first one.
The vacation we just took was amazing. It really brought us closer. It was also great to go to dinner and not have to ask for a kid’s menu and a sippy cup. We lounged by the pool all day, sipped some yummy drinks, fabulous dinners and did other “adult” things. The best part was that we got to talk to each other. I mean really talk, non-interrupted, uncensored and totally free. I felt revived. To give up the sweats for nicer clothes and sneakers for nice pumps made me feel like “me” again.
Also, don’t for a second think that we weren’t looking at pictures of our little girl and just gushing about her any chance we got, but it was great to just take a little break for mommin all the time. Again, I know going away as a couple is tough for most when you have kids, but if you can make time for yourselves individually or as a couple for even a few hours it really helps to save your sanity.